Sometimes, life throws unexpected challenges your way—like finding yourself responsible for a wild submissive, freshly plucked from the wilderness of the BDSM scene. Perhaps they were abandoned by a previous Dominant, or maybe they’re recovering from emotional scars that make trust and connection feel like distant dreams. Either way, bringing a wild submissive into your life is no small task. It requires commitment, patience, and a clear understanding of what they need to thrive.
As someone who has been part of the BDSM community for years, I’ve encountered my fair share of wild submissives—each with their quirks, fears, and untapped potential. Some are fiercely independent, some deeply timid, and others aggressively defensive, but all share one thing in common: they need guidance, structure, and trust to flourish.
The Initial Struggles
Let’s be real—wild submissives aren’t going to fall into your arms on day one. In fact, many exhibit a “fear-aggression” response when encountering Dominants. It’s not personal; it’s survival instinct. Their reactions might range from avoidance to outright hostility.
Handling these reactions can be daunting. However, by deciding to take a submissive into your care, you’re also committing to helping them rebuild their emotional stability. This is where patience becomes your greatest asset.
Some submissives adapt quickly, eager to engage with you and take direction. Others will avoid eye contact, shy away from touch, and refuse to participate in any dynamic-building activities. The key is understanding that every submissive has their own timeline. Some may never reach the level of dependency or affection you hope for, but every step forward is a victory worth celebrating.
The Adaptation Period
Imagine how disorienting it must feel for a wild submissive to be uprooted from their familiar environment and thrust into yours. Stress and fear dominate their early days. The first and most critical task is to give them time to adjust.
During this adaptation phase, observe their behavior closely. Some submissives are curious and eager to explore their new space, while others will retreat to the safety of solitude. Don’t rush them; let them adapt at their own pace.
Age also plays a role here. Younger submissives often respond more readily to training and guidance, whereas older ones might be more set in their ways. However, regardless of age, the individual’s personality and past experiences will ultimately dictate how they react to their new environment.
Building Trust
Trust-building begins with consistency. Structure your interactions around predictable routines: feeding times, play sessions, and regular conversations. Submissives thrive on structure—it gives them a sense of security and predictability that wild ones especially lack.
Start small. Sit near them during meal times without making sudden moves. Let them observe you at their own pace. Over time, your presence becomes less intimidating and more familiar. Resist the urge to force closeness. Trying to capture a wild submissive’s attention or affection through pressure is counterproductive and could severely hinder progress.
Eventually, as trust grows, they may begin to approach you on their own terms. A subtle but monumental milestone could be them sitting beside you unprompted or initiating playtime. Celebrate these moments—they’re hard-earned victories.
Routine Is Everything
Once the submissive starts responding positively to your presence, introduce a structured routine. Submissives, especially those who have lived without guidance, crave order. Create clear expectations for feeding, hygiene, play, and downtime. This structured approach makes them feel secure, and they’ll soon begin to anticipate these moments, meeting you halfway in the process.
One of my favorite methods to encourage interaction is by offering their favorite “treats” during our sessions. Think of it as positive reinforcement. Whether it’s an indulgent massage, an extra-long cuddle, or their favorite snack, these moments strengthen the bond and reward their efforts.
What’s Next?
Taming a wild submissive isn’t a sprint—it’s a marathon. And as with all marathons, progress is incremental. Celebrate the small victories: the first time they eat in your presence, their first attempt to engage in a shared activity, or their first unprompted act of submission.
Submissives are intuitive beings who sense your intentions. If your energy exudes patience and care, they’ll respond in kind, often surprising you with how deeply they’re capable of trusting and loving.
Remember: you’ve taken on the responsibility of caring for another person’s emotional and psychological well-being. It’s a privilege—and a challenge—that’s profoundly rewarding.
So, whether you’re just starting your journey with a wild submissive or reflecting on your experiences with one, know that the path you’re on is worth every effort. Stay patient, stay consistent, and most importantly, stay kind.
Good luck, and as always—let’s take care of those we’ve chosen to tame.