Wax Play is a sensual game involving melted wax within BDSM. This practice can offer unforgettable pleasure or, conversely, pose risks to health if not handled properly by an experienced Dom. First and foremost, it’s essential to prioritize safety.
The three core principles of BDSM are Safety, Sane, and Consensual. Additionally, experience is crucial; simply having a theoretical understanding of the techniques is not enough. Wax play is far from a vanilla practice; many mistakenly believe it’s simple. Let’s briefly cover the most important aspects.
Application Techniques
The wax can be applied in several ways:
- Dripping (with the sub in a horizontal/vertical position)
- Streaming (sub in a vertical position)
- Pouring (horizontal)
- Smearing (horizontal/vertical)
As with any BDSM practice, start from simple to complex. Pay attention to your partner’s sensations and level of comfort; if all is going well, you can experiment further.
Safety Considerations
Only pure paraffin candles are safe for this type of play, as they won’t harm the skin or cause allergic reactions. Avoid using dining candles, church candles, birthday candles, or beeswax candles, as paraffin from these can cause burns due to their high melting temperatures, and they can leave scars. If you choose to use such candles, proceed with caution and communicate with your sub to avoid any shocking surprises.
Preparation
If you’re using the Dripping Technique, light the candles 1-2 minutes before the session to let them burn. For smearing and pouring, light them 3 hours prior to the game. It’s best to let the candles melt naturally. Once ready, keep the wax in a jug or thermal cup for later use. The temperature of the paraffin should not exceed 49 degrees Celsius. Keep a thermometer handy for accuracy.
Techniques
- Wax Dripping: Start by dripping wax on your own hand and then onto your partner’s, gradually moving to their décolletage, abdomen, and buttocks. Hold the candle horizontally about 40-45 cm away from their body.
- Streaming Wax: The sub will feel heightened sensations, but be sure to keep the stream very thin and be extremely cautious to avoid injury.
- Smearing Wax: The wax temperature must remain below 49 degrees. This procedure is done by hand. You can create molds of your sub’s favorite body parts. Once the wax hardens, gently separate it from the skin rather than the other way around. This practice can induce a subspace experience.
- Body Painting: At a temperature of 52 degrees, you can use your partner’s body as a canvas, painting with your fingers or a brush. The thicker the brush, the more intense the sensations. You can use different colors of wax, provided the sub does not have allergies.
- Wax and Ice: This combination enhances sensations and adds contrast. You can alternate between placing an ice cube on the nipple and dripping wax on the abdomen or vice versa. Each person should experiment to find what feels best.
Where to Buy Wax Candles
The best places to purchase wax play candles are specialty sex shops or ethnic stores. If aesthetics aren’t your priority, you can opt for plain white household candles. However, it’s recommended to choose thicker candles, which create a natural reservoir while melting, allowing the wax to cool down and minimize harm to the skin. Avoid scented candles as fragrances can often cause allergies due to their non-natural ingredients. Also, steer clear of candles with glitter or exorbitant price tags, as they may contain numerous additives.
Removing the Wax
Wax can be removed in several ways, but the most common method is using a knife. Slide the knife under the edge of the wax sheet and carefully lift it off the body. After removal, take a warm shower. For women, start with a warm to cold contrast, finishing with cold water; for men, do the opposite.
Reminders for the Sub
- Ensure there are no hairs on the body.
- Always inform your Dom about any possible allergic reactions.
Reminders for the Dom
- Avoid using wax on the face.
- Do not pour wax on areas with cuts, wounds, or piercings.
- Monitor the temperature of the wax.
- The candle wick should be short and thin.
- Before applying wax on the sub, test it on your hand.
- Keep an eye on the sub’s condition and have a first aid kit on hand in case of emergencies.
Wax play is an extreme game among BDSM practitioners that relies heavily on trust and reciprocity. You should feel connected to each other to fully enjoy the experience. Remember, your partner gives you exactly as much as they receive from you.