Oral sex is one of the greatest pleasures a woman can provide to her intimate partner. Even if he hasn’t explicitly asked for it, rest assured that he is likely dreaming about it. It’s important to recognize that different areas of the male penis have varying sensitivities to stimulation from lips and tongue. The most sensitive spot is the glans, so this is typically where you should focus your attention during oral sex. You can easily bring your partner to orgasm by gently caressing this part with your tongue. The shaft of the penis is less sensitive, so stimulation there—whether oral or manual—may not provide significant pleasure.
Many women mistakenly believe that a firm grip on the penis with vigorous up-and-down movements is the way to maximize pleasure for a man. While this may look exciting, it unfortunately does not sufficiently stimulate the glans, as the main pressure is applied to the less sensitive shaft. The testicles (or whatever you prefer to call them) are quite sensitive to pain and are often overlooked as objects of erotic stimulation, which is a mistake. Paying more attention to the testicles can enhance your erotic play.
There are other areas of a man’s body that respond well to oral stimulation. Many men are sensitive in the chest and nipple area, in the perineum, etc.
It’s disheartening to see how many women don’t know how to properly arouse a penis or bring it to readiness. A common misconception is that a hard grip and vigorous massaging of the penis up and down qualifies one as an expert in oral sex. This is not the case. Start with gentle, cautious touches with your lips and tongue to explore the surface of your partner’s penis and gauge his reactions to identify the most sensitive spots.
Try this: Take your partner’s penis in one hand and gently lick the entire underside from base to tip. When you reach the glans, softly and gently take it into your mouth. By observing his arousal, you can discover which part is most sensitive and pleasurable for him. Once you’ve identified these areas, pay attention to the signs that indicate he is nearing orgasm. This knowledge is crucial, as it allows you to control the duration of your intimate play and avoid premature ejaculation. Typical signs of approaching orgasm include the glans swelling slightly, tightening of the thighs, and the appearance of drops of clear fluid at the tip. When these occur, the best might happen any moment.
The optimal position for oral sex (being down between his legs, lying sideways, or in a 69 position) depends on your partner’s sensitivity, as well as the structure and flexibility of your lips, tongue, and teeth. Experiment with different techniques to determine the best options for your pair.
Take your partner’s hard penis into your mouth, but do not squeeze your lips around the shaft. Begin making circular movements with your head. The penis will move freely, touching various internal surfaces of your mouth. Gently pull it out while lightly grazing it with your teeth. This exercise is easier to do while kneeling in front of him or when he is lying down with your head positioned directly above his member. Make circular motions both clockwise and counterclockwise. This play provides immense pleasure to the man and can last for a considerable time.
While kneeling in front of your partner, lift his erect penis so that you can reach his testicles with your mouth. Use slow, strong movements of your tongue to massage the perineum under the scrotum, the testicles themselves, and gently slide your tongue over them, licking the entire penis all the way to the top. You can use your hands to assist. This technique resembles licking an ice cream. Few men can withstand such prolonged stimulation without reaching a powerful orgasm. Alternatively, you can combine linear tongue movements with a figure-eight pattern.
The most common technique is to take your partner’s penis into your mouth without going too deep. We will later discuss deep-throating. Locate the head of his penis with your tongue. Lick the frenulum (the spot where the skin ends and the glans begins) once. Free the penis and repeat everything from the start, wrapping your hand around the shaft. You can spice up this play by moving your head side to side while your wet lips envelop the frenulum. Additional pleasure can be added by gently stimulating the penis with your hand in an up-and-down motion. Alternating several gentle, shallow grabs with a rare but strong and deep grip can enhance the experience.
In addition to the previous technique, there is one that intensifies the orgasm. If you block the sperm canal at the base of the penis with your finger while massaging the shaft with your lips and hand, mimicking the spasms characteristic of ejaculation, you can prolong your partner’s pleasure and bring him to a state of sweet exhaustion. When you finally allow the sperm to escape, the ejaculation will be unusually prolonged and intense. It’s incredible how such a simple technique can multiply the pleasure for a man.
For those just starting to practice oral sex, it’s important to keep some things in mind. At the moment of a man’s orgasm, he often tries to thrust his penis deeper. However, the average depth of the mouth is only about 7.5 to 9 cm, while the average European penis length ranges from 10 to 14 cm. The challenge is further complicated by the fact that the angle of the penis in relation to the throat and airways is 90 degrees during oral sex. Thus, right before your partner’s orgasm, it’s beneficial to tilt your head to one side, allowing his penis to fully enter without posing a danger to your airways.
Moreover, it is no secret that deep penetration can lead to certain physical reactions. To avoid these unpleasant issues, simply relax your throat and do not try to tense it during deep penetration. Additionally, you can control the depth by tightly wrapping your lips around the penis in a comfortable position and stimulating it solely with your tongue while taking a moment to breathe. The moment of orgasm is the only time during the entire oral session when your partner’s activity might exceed yours, as he will begin to mimic movements typical of regular intercourse, pushing his penis deeper each time. This can be a very intense sexual experience, especially for newcomers.
One more warning: do not leave your partner immediately after ejaculation. This will disrupt his pleasure. If swallowing the ejaculate is psychologically uncomfortable for you, simply spit it into a prepared tissue or towel, but do not rush to the bathroom. However, don’t forget that semen can serve as an excellent skin treatment. With mutual care and attention, you and your partner will soon learn to avoid possible unpleasant situations and maximize mutual pleasure from oral sex.
Now, let’s return our focus to your partner’s testicles. Given their high sensitivity to pain, special trust is required between partners to incorporate them into active sexual play. Start with gently licking the scrotum. As your partner becomes aroused, you can play with the nipples on his chest, stimulating the penis closer to the testicles. You might also gently roll his testicles deeper into the perineum, which many men enjoy. When there is complete trust, you can take both testicles into your mouth after wetting the scrotum with your tongue to moisten the pubic hair. Stuck hairs will not impede your tongue from playing with the testicles. The appendages of your partner’s testicles can sometimes serve as a detector for hidden infections such as chlamydia. If they appear abnormally enlarged and painful upon contact, it’s a warning sign and a clear reminder to consider protection.
This is a very simple technique for lovemaking, and if you are already familiar with the anatomy of the penis, you can easily master it. Wet your lips, wrap them around the head of the penis, and begin to gently rotate it along the frenulum from side to side. This will not require any special skills or talents, as this is the most sensitive area of the penis. Stimulating it can lead to a quick and intense orgasm. This technique is usually recommended for swiftly restoring your partner’s readiness after intercourse.