In a world where quick sex is trendy, sexologists argue that not everything fashionable is beneficial. If you desire vivid and profound sensations, consider embracing the art of slow sex. Here are practical tips from sexologist Margarita Chekanova, Ph.D., to guide you.
Quick sex has its allure, with men diving into passion like eagles swooping down on prey. Clothing is torn off in haste, and intense friction leads to a rapid climax. However, the question remains: will that climax be as intense as the act itself? Studies show that quick sex often results in quick and shallow orgasms. To experience more vibrant and deeper feelings, aim for a slower pace.
Don’t worry; I’m not suggesting you adopt complex Taoist practices. Slow sex requires no special training, just a mutual mindset: take your time! Since men tend to be more impatient, it’s often the woman who needs to take the lead. Let’s explore the steps and their approximate durations:
1. Undressing – 5 Minutes Take your time undressing each other. The woman begins by slowly unbuttoning the man’s shirt, pausing for kisses and gentle petting. After removing an article of clothing, take a moment to lie together and gaze into each other’s eyes. This “eye contact game” can be a powerful aphrodisiac! Did you know? Give it a try!
2. Foreplay – 25 Minutes Most foreplay sessions aren’t typically this long. To prolong the experience and prevent the man from becoming overly aroused, try a technique called “Sandbox.” Engage in repetitive, childlike play. His caresses could include gently sucking on her nipple or lightly tapping her labia with his fingers while she strokes his thighs or gently handles his testicles. The key is to keep the movements monotonous, avoiding any increase in intensity. This approach can reveal new dimensions of sexual excitement for both partners.
3. Oral Sex – 5 Minutes Transition to oral pleasuring as a bridge from foreplay to intercourse. These mutual acts can start alternately and then flow into the 69 position. Just as with foreplay, maintaining a low intensity is essential to avoid premature orgasm.
4. Genital Contact – As Long As You Can Endure The main rule here is partial penetration (only the tip of the penis should enter the vagina, about 1-2 cm). This level of control is often challenging for men, but women can manage it by adopting specific positions, such as various forms of the “cowgirl.”
Conclusion By adopting a slower pace, couples can explore their bodies and sensations more deeply, enhancing intimacy and pleasure. It’s all about savoring the experience and rediscovering the joy of connection in each moment.