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Navigating Emotional Challenges as a BDSM Dominant
I’ve seen a lot of discussions about the challenges faced by submissives. But what about the Dominants? Believe it or not, we have our own fears and uncertainties that come with the role. Let’s break them down. 1. Fear of Causing Harm For any responsible Dominant, the thought of accidentally causing physical or emotional harm …
13 Essential Principles Every Dominant Should Follow in BDSM
It’s about respect, trust, and maintaining the safety of your partner. These are not just rules—they are a mindset that defines your approach to BDSM. If you’re serious about this lifestyle, these principles will help you build stronger connections and become a trusted partner in any dynamic. 1. Take Responsibility for Safety In every BDSM …
The Seven Pillars of Dominance: A Guide to Leadership in BDSM
Being part of the BDSM community for the past five years has taught me that dominance is much more than just a role—it’s a philosophy and a responsibility. As someone who shares my experiences on my blog, I often get asked what makes a good Dominant. Over time, I’ve developed my perspective, and today, I …
What Scares Dominants? Understanding the Pressures of Leadership
As someone who has navigated the BDSM world for years, I’ve encountered a wide range of challenges that come with being a Dominant. These challenges aren’t just theoretical; they’re deeply personal and emotionally complex. While the role of a Dominant might seem appealing on the surface, the reality includes a lot of self-reflection, fear, and …
A Brief Note on the Role of a Safe Place
Let’s get one thing straight: when I talk about the Scene, I’m not referring to your run-of-the-mill brain games. In BDSM, emotions are a core part of the play. Whether it’s fear in SM or objectification in D/s, there are those who thrive on the razor-thin line between intense play and what could feel like …
Psycho-Masochism and What It’s All About
Summing up my personal experiences, insights from others within the BDSM community, and some psychological studies, I confidently state that psycho-masochism is a condition where a person has an exceptionally heightened sensitivity, leading to intense emotional swings that often follow a cyclical pattern—fluctuating between two extreme mood states. In simpler terms, a psycho-masochist is someone …
The Fears of Submissives in the Scene
Certainly, similar fears can be found in vanilla couples, but in the world of BDSM, these fears are often much more intense for submissives, which is why I feel it’s important to address them. Any fear a submissive experiences can not only ruin a session but also severely damage the trust built between partners, which …
Ensuring Safety in BDSM: An Insider’s Perspective
First and foremost, I want to make one thing clear: in the world of BDSM, safety is always the top priority. Whether you’re a seasoned player or just dipping your toes into the scene, ensuring safety is a non-negotiable foundation. Now, let’s talk about the human nervous system. People react very differently to stress. Some …
My favorite myths about the world of BDSM
When most people think of BDSM, images of handcuffs, whips, blindfolds, and, of course, Christian Grey often come to mind. But the reality of BDSM is far more intricate and diverse than the casual fantasies of the everyday. In fact, BDSM has revitalized countless relationships, offering couples a way to move beyond the dull confines …
A Personal Perspective on Emotional Safety in BDSM
In the realm of BDSM, emotions often take center stage, reaching beyond the bounds of conventional understanding. Whether through the thrill of fear in sadomasochistic play or the complex dynamics of power exchange, BDSM creates a unique space where the line between intense exploration and potential vulnerability is carefully navigated. This journey, of course, demands …
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