Irrumation is a type of oral sex characterized by active, deep thrusting of the penis into the partner’s mouth or throat. The main difference between irrumation and regular oral sex is the emphasis on these vigorous, penetrating movements. In irrumation, the male partner takes the dominant role, actively controlling the rhythm and depth of penetration, whereas, in traditional oral sex, the woman typically dictates the pace and depth by sucking and moving her head.
If there is no gag reflex during irrumation, the man can enjoy deep penetration, with the entire penis enveloped by the partner’s mouth. This experience tends to be more exciting for men, as they are active participants, which can lead to heightened pleasure and sexual tension. Furthermore, men can dictate the duration of this type of oral sex.
Consent is crucial, just as with any sexual activity. Some women may dislike the idea of their mouths being compared to vaginas. However, many women derive pleasure from irrumation, especially those who enjoy rough sex and BDSM elements. The enjoyment of such experiences varies from person to person, and if both partners’ desires align, there is no reason to shy away from exploring them.
History of Irrumation
Irrumation was notably practiced in Ancient Rome, where any form of oral sex was viewed as lowly and often reserved for degrading others. It was typically performed with prostitutes to emphasize their perceived inferiority or as a form of punishment, often involving elements of violence.
Types of Irrumation
Irrumation can be categorized into two types: without penetration and with penetration.
- Without Penetration: This involves stimulating the penis through active thrusting movements between the partner’s thighs or stomachs. Pre-lubrication of the penis or the area of irrumation can enhance pleasure. This technique is often referred to as “masturbation,” performed without the use of hands.
- With Penetration: This type occurs through active thrusting movements of the penis into the mouth and throat of the partner. Alternative names include “throat sex” or “deep throat.” This form of irrumation is often associated with BDSM, as it can involve elements of domination and submission.
Techniques for Irrumation
If both partners are open to exploring irrumation, start by choosing a comfortable position. The woman can lie on her back with a pillow under her head or hang her head off the edge of the bed, positioning the man’s penis directly in front of her mouth. The man should find a position that allows for easy, deep thrusting movements.
It’s crucial to begin with slow and shallow thrusts to gauge comfort levels. Discuss a safe word or gesture in advance to communicate when one partner feels overwhelmed. For instance, the woman can pinch the man as a signal. If she wants deeper penetration, she can push him further by placing her hand on his buttocks.
Men should learn to control their emotions during this act; if the partner seems uncomfortable, he must not insist on continuing. While it may be tempting for men to thrust fully from the start, gradual deepening of penetration helps ensure the receiving partner’s comfort.
Women can also influence the depth of penetration by holding the penis at the base with their hand, which restricts how deep the man can go. During irrumation, if a woman has her hand on the penis, she can also stimulate it simultaneously, adding to the overall pleasure.
When the man begins thrusting, he should focus on moving his hips rather than his upper body. He can incorporate not only thrusting motions but also circular movements, and the woman can turn her head or move it up and down to enhance stimulation.
Conclusion
Irrumation, or deep throat, is a sexual practice that can diversify your sexual repertoire. Some women view it as a variation of BDSM oral sex, while others may feel uncomfortable due to the feeling of being used. Trust is vital; if a woman doubts her partner’s ability to control himself while aroused, feelings of fear and distrust may arise. Open communication about desires and boundaries is essential. By respecting each other’s needs, partners can explore and enjoy the exciting dynamics of irrumation.