An experienced lover who masters the technique of cunnilingus can bring a woman to orgasm in just 1-2 minutes. Cunnilingus is an excellent foreplay. If you can give a woman pleasure orally, she will be open to any of your propositions—she might perform oral sex, allow you to enter her tight backdoor, swallow your semen, and even learn deep-throat techniques.
Good cunnilingus is the simplest and best way to receive gratitude from a woman who is willing to engage in any sexual experiment!
Many women complain about how men behave during oral sex, so be bold and avoid making mistakes.
1. Impatience and Haste
This is the king of all mistakes. Often, a man will linger around her intimate area for three minutes, ensuring that everything is quite wet, and then quickly rush to penetrate. However, this wetness is usually his saliva, not her lubrication. Moreover, women tend to become aroused more slowly; they might just be starting to feel intense arousal when it’s abruptly interrupted.
This mistake often leads to feelings of dissatisfaction and a spoiled mood. So, take your time—spend as long as your partner needs, which could be half an hour or more.
2. Excessive Intensity
Too much pressure and high-intensity movements can overwhelm sensitive areas. The clitoris and vulva are delicate zones. During cunnilingus, just like with any sexual act, you need to gradually build up the tempo and intensity following this pattern: soft—stronger—retreat. Then repeat: soft—stronger—retreat…
Sometimes a guy tries to “take a big bite,” simultaneously sucking on the clitoris and the outer and inner lips, or even everything at once. This approach can include rubbing against the clitoris while thrusting with the chin against the vaginal opening, shaking the head, performing various sways and rotations, intense licking, and attempts to penetrate.
The sensitive clitoris can quickly lose its arousal and stop responding to stimulation, which can ruin the mood and bring no pleasure.
3. Lack of Grooming
The vulva and clitoris have very delicate mucous membranes, similar to the inside of an eyelid. If a man has stubble or a beard, imagine how uncomfortable and painful it is when hair gets in your eye. This sensation is comparable to having sex with a cactus.
4. Overzealous Sucking
There’s a lot of literature about the clitoris, and many men, having read this, dive in with powerful sucking. However, they often focus solely on the clitoris, neglecting the labia and the clitoral hood.
5. Chatter and Noises
To maintain increasing arousal, a woman needs to be focused on her sensations. Yet, there are often muffled sounds coming from men, like “Mmm… Hmm… Delicious… I could eat you up.” Sometimes a man raises his head, speaks clearly, makes eye contact, and asks for feedback. This can be very distracting and completely disrupt the building tension.
Note
Interestingly, the best cunnilingus might come from a lesbian. Without a penis, she isn’t rushed by a swollen erection. Moreover, she understands her partner’s sensations better, having gone through trials and errors herself, allowing her to provide quality oral pleasure throughout the night. So, if you’re keen on experiencing this type of orgasm, seek a friend for the experience!
Rules for Beginners
Two main rules: don’t stop and don’t slow down!
If your movements are abrupt and intense, the level of arousal quickly diminishes, even leading to loss of sensitivity.
Don’t forget to assist with your fingers—do so gently and carefully, lightly inserting them into her vulva. Avoid stuffing three fingers inside or mimicking the motions of a vigorous thrust.
Create a cycle: light stimulation—bring her to the peak—ease off… Then repeat. After three or four such cycles, when a woman is ready to climax or asks you to penetrate her, hold off for a moment before starting stimulation again—this will have her begging for you to enter her, whether vaginally or anally. You will be able to take her in any position, with any intensity. Due to the overwhelming arousal, she will likely experience a powerful orgasm.
Men who are skilled at cunnilingus can also reach incredible excitement themselves—both the tongue and lips are highly sensitive erogenous zones, and the arousal experienced by the woman will also transfer to the man.
Recap of Mistakes
- Don’t linger in one spot; it can irritate and hurt the woman.
- Use your fingers, but do so gently and tenderly.
- Don’t be lazy—prolong the orgasm through cunnilingus, bringing your partner to the highest level of arousal.
If cunnilingus is done right, a woman will experience a deeper and stronger orgasm than from regular intercourse. Remember, she will surely reward you with unforgettable sex for a well-performed oral act made with care and passion.
Good luck in this exciting endeavor!